In a post titled "perseverance", gayLDSactor writes, "I've dedicated years of my life to doing what I've been taught to do, and it hasn't changed my feelings. I don't regret a moment of that." I really respect the sentiment that a lifetime of effort to be obedient is nothing to regret. Contrast that with the sentiment "I've wasted my life" potentially offered by those contemplating leaving the church to find happiness elsewhere. I guess such a comment may reveal a lack of insight into what one wants out of life and what makes life worthwhile. If life is an attempt to maximize rock star sex where planets fall from their orbits, my life has been only modestly successful. But, luckily, I think my view of life isn't quite so shallow. And if life is worthwhile only when "eat, drink, and be merry" is the mantra, the growing experiences like adversity have no value at all.
The funny part about the title "perseverance" is that it reminds me of the word "perseverate" (per-SEV-er-ate) which means to fixate on something. I suppose anyone who has a themed blog on gay issues (or gay Mormon issues!) perseverates to some extent. A lot of effort goes into thinking about one issue of life at the expense of many others. I think I come back over and over because I have a lot to think about and work through for myself. Maybe it won't be all the way worked out before I die. I dunno. But perseverating on this aspect of life alone has got to be a mistake. Granted, sexuality is a big deal, but human intimacy can be expressed in many ways other than sexuality. And a life filled with rich human interactions is never "wasted" even when there's no superstar sex. I can see how perseverating on gay issues may falsely give one the impression that those issues are paramount in defining an identity or gauging the success of one's life, but it's a lie.
So, indulge other aspects of your identity. If you are going to perseverate on something, perseverate on Christ. Or family. Or service.
Also, come back to my blog and comment daily. ;-)