I used to feel that I had to have the love and approval of everyone all the time. When I didn't, I felt I had failed. It bothered me if anyone in the room was upset. In social situations, I felt it was my duty to keep everyone happy and I would jump into conflicts that weren't mine in an effort to be the peacekeeper. I now realize that no one has the approval of everyone all the time. I now try to find the appropriate balance between being true to myself and being sensitive to others. If I get their approval, great. If not, I don't feel I have failed because I realize they have their perspectives and preferences, and I respect them.
in Resolving Homosexual Problems: A Guide For LDS Men
I am an admitted approval whore. It's like an addiction. Except, I'm not just trying to have the approval of everyone in the room, I want the approval and love of the WORLD WIDE WEB. It's been good to blog and have occasional disagreements with commenters because it shows me that I can remain civil with people I strongly disagree with. And I can even make strong statements to the right kind of person. And I try to BE the right kind of person that won't be easily offended, although it is my inclination to be overly sensitive and have easily shatterable self confidence.
It's something I need to work on, without a doubt. I value fair-minded and cool-tempered exchange of ideas, even if they are difficult or politically charged. Managing that when agreement is essentially impossible is worth working for.