I used to feel that I couldn't be happy until I resolved all the homosexual problems in my life. Then one day I realized that working on challenges like these is the essence of life. Our whole purpose for being on this earth is to have experiences and learn and grow from them. If we decide we won't be happy until we have mastered all our challenges, we will never be happy.
in Resolving Homosexual Problems: A Guide For LDS Men
I liked this part. It's what I would tell every LDS man who is struggling with homosexuality if I could. It would be nice if those suffering could be saved from some of the intense depression and loneliness by recognizing this early on. But, at the same time, I do hold the somewhat fatalistic view that we don't entirely "decide" to be happy.