Gay advocates state that homosexuality is inborn and unchangeable. The proposition that a person could change questions the very concept of a gay identity. In addition, recognizing that anyone would want to change is to admit there are those who believe it is wrong and does not make them happy. Gay advocates may go to great lengths to try to disprove anyone who claims to have changed. They may say that such people were never gay in the first place or that they have been brainwashed into believing they have overcome homosexuality and some day will realize they are just supressing their true homosexual nature. It is ironic that gay advocates have no problem believing that a straight man may discover his latent homosexuality, but they cannot tolerate the idea that a man with homosexual desires may discover his heterosexual nature. Jeffrey Satinover also noted, "There will always be people who seek to change but are not successful, even after many years of effort. Understandably perhaps, some of these relapse into a vocally gay-activist posture and become hostile toward the ministries they perceive as having failed, or even deluded, them."
in Resolving Homosexual Problems: A Guide For LDS Men
I am pretty darn gay, and desire to change. So I found this part interesting. Should I attempt to prove for the record that I'm gay? That would be an interesting post... ;-) The truth is, I actually wrote just such a post a while back, but it's still sitting in draft status. Ultimately, I realized I can't produce any evidence sufficient for anyone else. It was actually a pretty amusing post, but it bordered on inappropriate. Maybe I should post it just to string along anyone who can't stomach non-stop pensive philosophical posts. Anyway, people will just have to choose to trust me or not. And, folks, I'm not just gay, I'm WAY gay.
As for change, I'm not entirely persuaded. I'm prepared to live my life without any such change, but it would be nice. If such a change is possible, I'm going to achieve it. And I'm going to continue to ignore the shrill insistence of those who claim to know for certain that it is impossible. I can see how it is important for some people to hold inarguably that it is not possible, but it's a part of my newly affirmed assertiveness that I will not assuage their subconscious apprehensions by conceding what they want to hear. We'll see. Or at least, I will.